mountaindew, I agree it is best to hear what happened from your therapist's lips. But if she asked your father's permission to talk with him about you, she has to get your permission too. It is not OK because it is family therapy (and you seem not to have even known it was, so there was no informed consent on that). Getting your permission would involve you signing a release form allowing your T to speak with your father. (At least that's how it works in my state. My daughter is in individual therapy and had to sign a form in order to allow me to talk with her therapist.) Her talking to your father without a release seems like a huge breach of confidentiality. Do you still have a copy of the informed consent you signed? You could check it to see if there is a special clause there that permits your T to contact family members. This would be very unusual, but it is good to check, and if it is not there, I would go over the document with T and let her know about her violation.