I'm not and never have been a 'people pleaser'; I tell it how it is, but at least being kind about it. It's just that I refuse to pander to other peoples' whims. To do so would be a false statement to my core beliefs. I am what I am, but love helping others see the direction they are going in and gently steer them onto a safer path. What they do with that advice, of course, is up to them.