Sorry to hear that he cheated. Possibly more than once taking in consideration his substance abuse

Listen I’ll be frank. You’ve been with this man for several years now and all you have is constant troubles and difficulties with him. It doesn’t sound like happily ever after to me.

Why would you consider marrying someone who you have so many issues with? There are many nice sober honest and interesting high quality men out there.

I don’t believe you are holding your relationship back. It’s your guts wisely telling you something.

In addition if you do want to stay with him there is nothing one can do to stop it, but please don’t bring children into this. It’s not responsible to raise kids in the household like this. Father arriving home drunk. Not good.

Also makes me wonder why he confessed his infidelity 3 years after it happened. Makes one wonder. I’d not trust that he didn’t do it more than once. Surely I’d never have unprotected sex with him. He isn’t to be trusted

I knew someone who contracted HIV from her own husband who slept around (she didn’t know). She recently passed away from AIDS, it killed her. She did live long with the illness but she didn’t deserve to suffer like this. No man worth that.