Some people are really really bed at expressing themselves. My mom and dad had a somewhat rocky start to their marriage, because my dad was a lot like your husband. He thought that by taking care of the bills, providing for the family, and occasionally taking care of something that my mom just couldn't deal with at the moment, he was expressing his love. That was his language. He was in his late thirties. sex wasn't that important to him, and romance utterly failed him. It wasn't until some years later that he began to get the idea of what my mom wanted.

I once heard someone say that the hardest thing to learn about love was that each person only has their own kind of love to give. That doesn't mean he can't learn. He just needs some help to see the way.