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Dec 11, 2019, 09:04 AM
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Member Since: Apr 2014
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Originally Posted by luvyrself
Yes, I agree that the best thing on the forum is when people accept us, understand us, and validate us. However, in my life, I want tips and information very much. Often the person is asking a specific question. With psychiatric doctors that take insurance, and some private doctors offering 15 minute sessions once youre past intake, I think info from peers is VITAL. Bipolar is complex and yay, I have mixed episodes. Most of the therapists I have encountered over my 40 years with this just sit there. I have to press for goal setting over and over. Obviously I like structure and specific help as fast as I can get it. And I have learned more than from 40 years worth of doctors here. I think its possible to validate the person just by giving a specific response--showing that you take them seriously, care about what happens to them, and intend in any way we can.
So I think we can help in two ways: 1. by showing warmth and acceptance and 2. by answering questions in an effective way. Again, I think people can be helped a lot more when we know what we're dealing with. Im going to try to be as specific as possible when I start a thread asking for ideas.
I dont think I should be ashamed of trying to help people by sharing all those years of experience that i got THE HARD WAY with very little support and almost NO information. Acceptance is important too, but I want people to tell me what has worked for them specifically or what they think will work for me. I just want people to get more information than I received and was starved for. It would have changed my life.
So thank God for Psych Central and for all of you. I think a balanced approach is the goal.
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How about we provide a warm accepting tone AND specific information (in the clearest possible way)?
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No one is suggesting that you shouldn't answer questions that people ask with specific information or that you can't ask for more details so you can give a legit response. We're just saying that it's the OP's prerogative how much they choose to share or not share, and we're not going to ask them, as a requirement of posting, that they share specific details that are pre-prescribed. If you want more info from an OP, just ask, but they aren't required to include anything they don't want in their post, and that is as it should be. People share what they are comfortable with.
And you are more than welcome to make as many suggestions to as many people as you like, drawing on your own personal experience.
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Primary Dx: C-PTSD and Severe Chronic Treatment Resistant Major Depressive Disorder
Secondary Dx: Generalized Anxiety Disorder with mild Agoraphobia.
Meds I've tried: Prozac, Zoloft, Celexa, Effexor, Remeron, Elavil, Wellbutrin, Risperidone, Abilify, Prazosin, Paxil, Trazadone, Tramadol, Topomax, Xanax, Propranolol, Valium, Visteril, Vraylar, Selinor, Clonopin, Ambien
Treatments I've done: CBT, DBT, Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), Talk therapy, psychotherapy, exercise, diet, sleeping more, sleeping less...
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