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Dec 12, 2019, 05:16 AM
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Member Since: Jul 2019
Location: Downtown Vibes, California
Posts: 15,701
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Originally Posted by luvyrself
I have been on these wonderful forums for years. I think the thing that slows us down most in giving relevant tips or sharing sources of information that will most help is having to dig for background information. I mean that for example if a woman says her partner is abusive, it doesn’t help us to give lesser examples of the abuse. Then we have to dig for the extent of the situation. Or you may be asking about careers, but you are not getting treatment and you are barely getting by.. Or you’re not getting treatment and asking very complex treatment related questions when you don’t have a place to live. Yes it’s hard to determine the first thing to do when youre overwhelmed, but food, housing, insurance or a program for assistance, psychiatrists and medical doctors come first.
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Okay, I have re-read your OP several times and I might understand it now.
Are you saying that it would be helpful if each member shared their background so others can understand what that person's history is?
If that's what you mean, I also have a problem with not knowing someone's basic history. Yet I recognize that some members don't want to share every detail of their lives. And what about the practicality of doing so...how can a member share their story?
In other words, even if someone wants to give background information, how would they do that on every post...put succinct information in their signatures, or...?
I don't mind sharing personal information at all. I can't think of anything I don't want to share, within reason. But of course, many people are not comfortable sharing their background story.
The only practical way I can think of to find out about other members' history is to make a thread specifically for members to give their history and current issues. Ask posters to limit their history to a specific length...perhaps remind people to use paragraphs, and to tell their story as clearly and directly as as possible; i.e., not write a book. That way whoever wants to answer can do so.
Another idea is to ask members who want to do so to list, say, 3 goals related to their history. For example, "Goal #1 My sister always made fun of the way I dressed, She really hurt my self-esteem. Now she has invited me to dinner because I think she wants to reconcile. I'd like some tips on how to forgive her so she and I can be closer now."
That's just a random examlpe that could be used. Or, maybe someone wants to post something that requires a trigger warning because it's intense.
I hope I've understood the meaning of this thread. If I haven't....
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