Our marriage has been great. We got together when we were 16, married at 19 (young, I know). But it’s worked out fantastically for us. He has a great job which provides us with a well above average level of comfort in our life. He’s a great father. Super engaged. He’s my best friend and I’m his. We have so much fun together. Seriously, if people knew us they probably wouldn’t jump to being so harsh towards him. I probably framed my post poorly and painted him as some weirdo exhibitionist of me. The “accidental” flashes thing is one small aspect of this whole thing. And it’s like at a bar or something he says I should bend forward so someone could get a peek down. It’s weird, but it’s not like unheard of at a bar where people are looking to pick up women. So I probably should have titled it “ husband wants other men to see me naked” not anything about the “accidental” exposures. And that’s really where my questions are. He wants me (being fully consenting) to let his friends (also fully consenting) see me naked. So people are getting hung up on the “accidental” part and it’s not about that. Like fine, I totally understand that’s no good. I agree. But that’s not my issue, and I’m sorry I framed it wrong. It’s the him wanting other guys to see me. Like he wants me to go to a male gyno. Which I’ve never done. It’s not out of the ordinary for many women. But he likes the idea of another guy doing all of that to me. Or he’s booked massages for me and after I find out he requested a male masseur. Then he wants to hear if the guy saw anything extra than he’s supposed to. He just has a thing for other guys seeing me that’s cropped up recently in the last couple of years. And it’s been super gradual. Suggesting more revealing bikinis, then requesting me to stop wearing a bra, dress sexy when we’re going out, all the way to just saying he wants me to let his friends see me naked, or the naked room service thing. So it’s weird, and not what I think almost any other married men would want. But everything about our life and marriage other than this is great. He’s a loving, attentive, engaged husband and father. Divorce is so not even in my mind. Obviously something is driving this kink and I want to find a way to either work through it, or figure out how we fit it into our lives in a mutually acceptable way. Not sure what that looks like, but those are the questions. Oh, and like, why? Like what gets a husband to want to show his wife to other men. That seems so counter to how I know how protective men are of “their women”.

And to answer the other part of your question, he’s always been more adventurous in our sex life. If we try something new, it’s at his suggestion for the most part. Not 100% of the time. There’s plenty of things that are my idea (normal sex things I’m talking about here). But the vast majority of sexually ideas come from him and always have. He’s the one buying new toys etc. so he’s always had a very high sex drive. And I’ve had no complaints. It’s been fantastic up until this stuff.