I think it would be interesting to take your husband to a male strip club and then start asking him to do certain things. Very few men care to go to these kind of "women's events". What does your husband do? It would be interesting to see how he does when the shoe is on the other foot. When you try this, do it tastefully though and don't do it as a way to punish him, but instead to put him in the same position he puts you in with "hmmm, you got me thinking and how about YOU do some things for me too". Hmmm, maybe YOU playing strip poker with women and YOU losing on purpose. Often a person understands boundaries better when they are in the position of giving their boundaries up the same way. Doing it 'tastefully" however is key, because it's ok to play "some" games together, but it's important to do so in a way that doesn't push your partner's boundaries to please you in a selfish way.