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Originally Posted by ~Christina
Luv, I understand what your saying and wanting to do but it’s a slippery slope. People post what they are comfortable sharing , if they ask questions about where to find professional help you can tell them to google their town to find providers in there area.
If a person asks if anyone knows of a T or Pdoc in X town then you can probably help them find a list, and that’s wonderful.
Your goal orientated ?? I am too with my T we see problem X and work on it until it’s resolved. So I know what’s driving your need for wanting more information. But maybe take a few minutes to re read their post and see if they are looking for specific answers or are just wanting to hear other people’s experience with X situation. Those are very different things.
You are going to find people who are willing to answer lots of personal questions and they will be lucky to find you as you do have a lot of advice to give 
As for support given to people that are abusive or drug dealers. Iv been kicking around PC for over 8 years I have never seen a post where someone will admit they are a drug dealer, we get a lot of posts about having a drug problem of course ..,you can validate there addiction.. Hey,I’m sorry your dealing with this addiction...is there’s anyway I can help .. or... there’s lots of help to be found here , I could probably show you some websites if you want... if they want them they will say .. sure, yes, please etc . My experience with anyone with whatever addiction is looking for someone else that’s been there, birds of a feather kinda deal. I have only absolute basic understand of AA, so I don’t get involved.
I’ve seen maybe a dozen posts over the years that someone admits to either physically hitting a partner or being emotional abusive etc. but they come asking for help , they want to know how to find help, they want to stop.
So in those cases of course no one will validate what they Are doing or HAVE done is right , time and time again the responses are pushing for them to find professional help , other responses will be about how much damage they have/are doing to the other person.
Some threads for personal reasons I don’t even open as it triggering.
If a person is posting whether it be the OP or a members response is something that is iffy as to be within community guidelines just click that X and let the Moderators handle it.
If I ask someone a question and they don’t respond then I just move along I don’t ask them another.
I’m just grateful PC exists |
I have been on PC a far briefer time than you and certainly am far less well acquainted with all of its ins and outs and nooks and crannies than you are. Those two examples you commented upon were both taken from actual PC posts read and/or commented on by me, one of them rather recently. I cannot direct you as to where to find them because I do not keep records of other people's posts. But that's where the examples arose from.
But I fear I didn't make myself very clear, because the specifics of those examples were not at all my point. My point was that I was responding to the notion set out that PC ought to serve as a kind of blanket validation center for all those who come here. That's why we're here. To validate. That's one position and many of us are here in America and so, that is fine. But I don't happen to agree with that. I believe there are a goodly number of things that ought not be validated ever, even if the poster is struggling/suffering with some kind of clear mental illness. No need to go into it any more than that. That was my point.