There is a way you can have safe sex. Take your time picking and dating a partner. Talk with them about being safe. Dont proceed unless you trust the person. Have a committed relationship and both get tested before having sex, or practice safe sex if you dont want to wait. If you use latex condoms or limit yourself to hand stimulation (surgical gloves seems like overkill to me), wash a lot, and dont kiss, you avoid the big hazards. Learning really excellent massage techniques is safe too. Get a really good recent book on all of these aspects.
I lived through the days before AIDS, during AIDS, and now there are or are suspected new strains of AIDS coming out of Asia. Paranoid, I dont think so. Rates of STDs are skyrocketing in the US because the advances in AIDS treatments made people overconfident about the dangers. Im so, so sorry that there are real dangers. But dealing with the risks in a safe way should make you more confident.
Frankly, I think you are the smart one. You know yourself that nobody is putting AIDS in your food.