As I have stated before I suggest you follow your own dream before taking over your daughters entire life. This is from me who also tends to be wildly codependent. You are being sucked deep into the vortex of trying to run an irresponsible person’s life.We have to stop. I have made some strides that way this week but need the strength not to backslide and to push ahead to get my own needs met. I know we can do it. At least put some limits ahead of time on how far you will go with this