Hey @puzzclar I cant identify with all you shared but I have some thoughts on grief.
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Originally Posted by puzzclar
How have you gotten past your grief? What skills did you use to move on? I know it's not very simple, or is it simple.
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I think many people feel like they have some invisible timeline for moving past grief. Or that they have to. I think moving past the symptoms of grief are important but I do not necessarily think all people need to move past it.
My father died suddenly when I was 24. He was not a good dad. But the 2 years I had before he died helped me connect with him on a level where I was able to forgive him. When he died I mourned the loss but it was more about what could have been and not what was. I was past grieving about the way things used to be and had to grieve that our relationship was cut short. I believe he was mentally ill and he was an addict from an abusive home. This made me understand (not accept as ok) they way he was with me. My grieving turned into acceptance- that he was probably better off where he was because he was so tortured on earth.
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