Hey - I find it weird too, otherwise I wouldn't have posted about it. But before you elaborate, remember that I'm already feeling a bit sensitive about it and I'd really like to try not to theorize in ways that will increase my insecurities. He says that he wants things to go back to normal after the baby is born, so I'm giving him time and will see what happens. I can't or don't want to risk getting overly upset about it over the next few weeks - hard to explain this, but now more than ever, I sense that the baby is aware of my emotional states so I'm being careful to pick my battles.

The truth is that he *might* respond if I were to simply just, uh, go down on him but if there was no effort to reciprocate then I'd feel even worse and more frustrated afterwards. I think I look terrific but I sense that he doesn't find my body attractive in a sexual way right now, which sucks but I can't really dictate to him that he should. He still touches my body and rubs and kisses my belly so I am not thinking that I repulse him - he just doesn't see it as sexual. and he's going through a lot of his own stuff right now - I don't know how good he feels about *himself*.

anyway, thanks for your concern and i'll be happy to give you all an 'update' if/when things change (ha ha - maybe I should save it for PM though!)