Hey @Northerna:
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Originally Posted by Northerna
I am at the point where I am questioning if my relationship is even worth fighting for anymore. At what point does one call it?
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Just this statement makes me think its time you moved on.
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Feels like no matter what I do it is never good enough. He doesnt listen, is incapable of seeing my point of view or refuses to see it. He speaks to me in such a way that I feel guilty and shamed. I feel beaten down and am constantly trying to fight my way back up.
He wants me to change but has has unrealistic expectations that seem to have gotten even harder to reach each year but is unwilling to change his expectations.
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What does he expect you to change? And why do you have to change? Expecting a partner to change something just because you have decided they should makes no sense to me. And why you? Doesnt he realize he can only change himself?
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Our almost 2 year old boy complicates my decision on whether I stay or go coming from a broken family as I cannot be with out him and I have a feeling if we ended things he would make it a very long and difficult process. Do I sacrifice my happiness and stay in a marriage where I am no longer happy? Or do I caall it and prepare myself for the long journey ahead I can predict would happen?
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You need to plan if you leave. See a lawyer. Make sure that you take your child with you in the most legal way possible. Kids know when things are not right. You may think your child is too young but he knows and as things move forward if you stay you are modeling behavior that you dont want to model for a child. He will learn how to treat women based on what he sees which is your husband. He will see that mama stayed in a bad marriage and that must be how it is. What would you tell your son if he were in the situation you are in?
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