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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Hi @TorturedSoul92:
If you havent been taking it consistently it makes sense that you dont see any benefits. Those types of meds build up in your system and do not work here or there.
So does this mean you see your old therapist still or no therapist?
This makes sense. If the meds are not working you would feel down and isolated. But your classmates have no business knowing why you missed class. I am sure its just a general query but you are not required to answer so do not worry about being judged.
PLease tell me you are no longer with this girl. Its 100% toxic and inappropriate on so many levels. I understand you like the kids but they are not your kids and they have fathers. You should not have to compromise your well being for them. And she should know better than to introduce a man into the situation when it could confuse her kids.
Have you apologized and told them you have left this woman? I think that may be the way to have them back in your life. She breached your friendships and I can see why they would be wary to start up again if she is still in the picture.
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This is how I see it. Her back and forth is controlling you and she has all the power because you are vunerable. A lot of changes could be made in your life but I believe she is the catalyst and nothing will change or get better as long as you keep her in your life.
There is tons of validity to what you are saying. I dont mean to hammer you but I promise you as long as you are with her nothing will change. She wont change because she hasnt yet and you cant control or change other people.
Keep your chin up.
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Thanks so much for taking the time to respond! Your comments are really helpful.
I probably should’ve disclosed my gender just for clarity, but I’m a woman. Doesn’t change much, but just wanted to clear that up.
I’m not seeing a therapist although I know I should be.
As for the girl, I know there’s so much wrong with the situation & you’re right! Things will not change as long as she’s still in the picture. My best friend has told me this, I spoke to another friend who’s in a similar situation with her bf & she also said the same; that I shouldn’t try to rekindle these friendships until she’s out of the picture.
It seems I’ve gotten myself in such a bad situation & theres A LOT more but considering just what I wrote here, it says a lot that you’re able to assess the toxicity. It’s almost like a drug & I have to find some way to quit cold turkey.