There are lots of women on the spectrum too who will understand the way your mind works, and will be patient and forgiving with any Aspie quirks because they share them too. And not all NTs are as judgemental as is easy to believe. Wear your data nerd badge with pride, but also remember that numbers don't tell the whole story. Previous lack of success doesn't mean that what you're attempting is impossible; it only means that some variable was not right. Changing the variables changes the equation.