@Noname1987, so how did you feel through all of that, when you called his bluff and allowed your husband's friend to watch you naked in your room? How did you feel afterwards? Did you feel OK with it? Angry? Upset? Hurt?

I agree with the others that this is a very slippery slope... if you give an inch your husband will take it a mile.

I think it may be wise of you to truly figure out where you stand with all of this FIRST, before testing the waters again. You called his bluff this time, and it pleased him immensely, but the real question how did YOU feel about it?

If you are comfortable or OK with doing these things for him, that's one thing and it's totally fine, but if you are NOT, there's a problem here that needs to be resolved. I'm afraid that your husband is going to continue to have all these fantasies, but if actually fulfilling them goes against your own principles, values and comfort level, what are going to do?

I think these are important questions to answer for yourself. You love him and tell us that you have a great marriage otherwise, but there may be an incompatibility here that could become a source of friction in your marriage. Please don't do these things simply to please him and fulfill his fantasies, IF you are truly not comfortable doing them. Your self-esteem could suffer and you may end up resenting your husband for pushing you to compromise your values and self-worth. Just some questions that may help you....

I also think it's very telling that his friend said he would never ask that of his girl or want that of her.