I graduated already a few years ago so I am not in university, for now. I do plan to go to Europe and start studying anew when I can. My mother knows how people are here, as she has experience in having to interact with people here. Both genders are immature and superficial, not to mention being very judgemental as they have insulted her for other reasons as well. She has got into numerous verbal arguments with women here because they have also called her names and judged her, so my guess is that she told me to consider looking to dating after I will have moved to avoid ending up with someone who treats me badly, judges me and/or does not even care about me.

I do now see how the NT social circuit of high-paced ultra-extroverted, outgoing environments is failing me. I forgot to add that during that same date from August 2019, after that sex talk episode, she later asked me when was the last time that I had vomited from drinking too much. I was quite baffled by what kind of question this was. I said that when I drink, I never drink so much to the point of uncontrolled vomiting and overintoxication. Then she said that the week before, she had gone to a nightclub , drank too much tequila and had spent the early morning vomiting in her toilet bowl. I thought to myself, but is not age 30 a bit old for doing these types of things. I thought that this was a thing that university students did. Since we shared social media accounts (Facebook, WhatsApp, Instagram, etc.), even though we no longer see each other, we see what the other does via social media. I notice that every week she has an update that shows her in some nightclub, and then sometimes with some meme that talks about vomiting from drinking too much. I guess that she does this on a regular basis. Perhaps this is something normal that people in their 30s and 40s even do, but just recently I figured out that I just cannot relate this way.

I could try some alumni groups or other groups if I can and if there exist any here. It is hard to find suitable meetup groups. Other acquaintances have told me the same thing. It feels like often the choice is binary, between the NT outgoing social crowd or just not socialise at all. I think that the fact that introverts by definition do not even attend meetups but rather stay at home most of the time is probably why I rarely meet introverts and almost always meet extroverts.

My mother probably understands more than my father, as she had also admitted to me to being not only an introvert who struggled with relationships, but also being a virgin until age 27. There are differences between the stigmas of being a female virgin compared with being a male virgin, but often both feel serious self-esteem issues and are seen as outcasts in society, even more today than before.