It's understandable that you have very mixed feelings about this challenge Noname. Yes, on the one hand it's very flattering that your body can be so desirable. Women most certainly have taken advantage of that in many ways in humanity where they have allowed their bodies to be displayed for viewing. They even choose clothing that shows something that can be very suggestive. This has even been considered a form of art.

We have had politicians who engaged in playing around and there were always women "who let them" too. There have been wives who "let them", like Jacklyn Kennedy who knew her husband played with other women who let him. Actually, our first lady did allow her body to be photographed and she did partake in that world of showing off her body. Well, there are sure plenty of comments that put her down and basically call her trash. Plenty of negative assumptions about her that tend to show disrespect for her. She has been called "the trophy wife" and has not really been considered as being an intelligent woman. No, the focus tends to be more on how she freely allowed her body to be photographed and got paid for that. Plenty of nasty things have been said about Melania's relationship with her husband. Lots of "assumptions" have been made and yet no one really knows what their real relationship is about, things they agreed on and are perfectly ok with.

Oh right, "but he said this and that", well what was the REAL conversation your husband had with his friend? Our president engaged in a discussion with another man not knowing he was being taped. At one point he said "if you think that's bad you should hear what Clinton says". It's important to think about the statement made "And they LET YOU". Well, at one point Melania was encouraged to expose her body and have lots of photos taken of her, once she did that however, she no longer had control over the consequences of that and never even dreamed she would one day become the First Lady and would be treated so badly by so many people who made it a point to print old pictures she agreed to have taken long before she met her husband. Yes, often she was encouraged to wear suggestive clothing as well. Her husband did not see anything wrong with what she did, he enjoyed her body and enjoyed how other men found her extremely attractive. Oh, that's just AWFUL many have uttered, vocally and in many written articles and comments.

Well, our choices in our lives do have consequences, often consequences unimagined. And people can be incredibly cruel and most definitely "assume" many things that can be mean and cold and calculating. And you are correct in that if other mothers find out, you may have a hard time making friends and often women make it a point to shun and avoid.

So the question for you is how do you want to live YOUR life? What is important to YOU? Also, choices you do make WILL affect your children. That is a discussion that should take place because it isn't just you and your husband, the choices the two of you make will forever have an affect on your children who always have to deal with your choices and tend to have no say. Also, children who learn about the choices you make can struggle with feeling that you did not care enough about THEM when you made these choices. It IS important that you have a discussion with your husband about what kind of family he wants to have, because the truth is, it's not just you and him, what you choose to do now does affect your family.