So you obviously are not the only one having issues with dating people who are absolute jerks! I never knew Frisco was that bad. If even NTs are having that rough a time, that should ease the self-recrimination on you, Lundi. I really think your life will change when you get out of there. No one can heal their heart in the emotional equivalent of a superfund site.


It might be a good idea to refrain from looking at those profiles, and be more selective about the meetups you attend, unless you genuinely find the connections fulfilling. If all it does is make you wonder why you can't be part of it, or feel disgust for all of humanity because of how you see them behave, then it will do more harm than good. That's just a suggestion of course, and I would never direct someone on what they should or should not do. But it's important to consider how what you do affects how you think and feel. That has a huge impact on mental health and I had to learn that lesson the hard way.

In my view, it's weird to intentionally intoxicate yourself to the point of puking and passing out. Life is too short, precious, and fragile to dull your awareness of it. Trying to force yourself into a life that isn't right for you is only going to cause damage. And you won't meet anyone who will appreciate you for who you are. I'm sorry if I'm sounding bossy or preachy here, but I don't want to see anyone damaged because they aren't living their authentic selves. People who live for the party scene don't respect themselves or even life itself, so of course they are incapable of respecting anyone else. That is not a good environment for someone who wants genuine, deep relationships.

You walked into a snake pit and expected yourself to flourish in it. Most people aren't such big a-holes as the one's you've encountered. Look for different kinds of people and you might be surprised at how differently they react to you, and treat you. And please keep in mind that you don't have to tell people about your virginity in a social setting. Directness and honesty are beautiful aspects of ASD, and something the world needs so much more of, but at the same time you don't have to wear a sandwich board proclaiming personal things about yourself to strangers.