The simple answer is you refuse and say no.

In dating, you don’t set yourself up into a situation that makes it harder for you to say no. For example; if you don’t want to have sex with him, don’t go to his house for one more drink at the end of the night. Call it a night and go straight home.

You don’t really know what your boundaries are until someone tries to cross them. If you feel you are being pushed, just hold firm and say no. If they don’t like it, then they won’t see you again. Accept that’s ok. If they had one thing in mind that made you feel exploited, then they weren’t going to meet your needs in the long run.

Jumping into bed too soon was an issue I struggled with when I was single. I was in my 20’s and dating now in my 50’s I can only imagine the pressure from the men would be even worse. I was raised with a previous generation’s thinking pre feminism, and didn’t believe in those old school rules, instead thought my generation knew better and immediate sex was a good decision. But, when the guy didn’t call me again, I realized that wasn’t good of me to do if I wanted a committed relationship. The ones I didn’t get sexual with, did call again, usually, and turned into a real relationship. At least, this was my experience. I’m not judging or generalizing, and I have no idea about dating rules these days.