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Old Dec 16, 2019, 02:37 PM
*Beth* *Beth* is offline
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Originally Posted by StreetcarBlanche View Post
I think we subconsciously choose people who trigger a childhood trauma we experienced, so that we can heal that experience (or we think we can) by taking care of that person. Because that person symbolizes the toxic family member who traumatized us.

I think when you date someone, you date their psychology. Who fit your idea of relationship roles that you grew up experiencing. My relationship pattern is codependent<->narcissist.

I agree and I'll add that if we grew up in a chaotic environment we're used to "broken" people. Anything else seems boring.
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