I was conditioned by my family and by all of society to be a people pleaser. I came of age in the 70's and everyone knew that a "nice" and well-bred young woman always, always put others (especially men) first. Oh, how well I excelled at being a people pleaser!
Now at almost 57 I'm going to therapy twice a week to learn how to be cared for by someone else, and to care for myself.