Often fantasies should stay just fantasies. If you feel at all uncomfortable or if you are being judged in your thread, consider that none of the posters know you, imagine what it would be like if people you know found out. And NOW when your husband has his friend come around, you are going to feel different about him, and he will feel different around you. Nothing you can say to him will change that either. He felt wrong about even looking at you, had respect for your boundaries until your husband talked him into looking at you. Your husband is not respecting your boundaries, at least that is what other posters are feeling.