I don’t see any judgement. If you posted you two have open marriage or like to expose yourself and you both have fun and people said it’s wrong, it would be a judgment.

But you posted that you are concerned, uncomfortable and worried about the situation, so naturally people responded with their concerns and support for your potentially bad situation. You can’t expect people to respond “your husband has awesome wholesome ideas and you should do what he asks”.

Situation is concerning, there us no judgement about what you do, but sure ton of concern. Even if you decide to live this life style, you have to know potential danger.