@Noname1987: how are you doing? You've gotten a lot of feedback in this thread, and I know you felt judged by some of it. Many have said they don't see anyone judging you. And many have said there is only concern for you, which is what I see too. Just wanted to check in to see how you're feeling with all of this? I know it can feel overwhelming, with so much input and so many opinions... I hope you are OK, most importantly. Just know that people care about your well-being, and that that is where everyone here is coming from.