Actually NoName, I think the feedback you have gotten about this challenge is not judging you but more about what different individuals think about what your husband wants you to do. Part of what is wrong with what your husband is doing is how he is putting you out there in situations where another man is taken by surprise. Your husband is assuming these other men have the same fantasies and interests he has. It's not situations that are consenting as someone else pointed out. His friend's initial response was not wanting to invade your privacy and your husband encouraged him to go ahead and look. Your husband is asking you to be a flasher. It's not all that different than asking you to wear a coat with nothing on under it and flashing random people. Actually, if you suggested that to him you now know he would respond with "yeah, lets try that" and come up with situations you could actually do that.

I have tried to step back and think about the behavior itself and how it's come out in other ways in humanity. It has come out in a lot of different ways. We have this restaurant chain called Hooters for example, the man who came up with that made it a point to put women on display, specifically women who have large breasts and men can go someplace to eat and be served by some woman who has certain attributes. Hooters is NOT the first restaurant or public place to present this idea. I actually remember when I was young working at a restaurant where all the waitresses wore uniforms that consisted of short skirts and low cut tops. It was desirable when women bent over while serving drinks etc. The short skirts were plaid, red and black. Many years later I came across a documentary that explained the significance of the color red. Turns out men happen to be very attracted to the color red and most of them don't even realize why. They don't even know WHY they often buy trucks and cars they consider "female" and often pick the color red. When I learned that I remembered those uniforms and I thought about how the man who picked that uniform probably didn't even know why he chose to have the short skirts be red. If I remember correctly, in that movie "10" wasn't Bo
Dereck wearing a clingy wet red bathing suit? Perhaps I have that confused with "Lady in Red" movie. Given what I have learned about "red" and "men" I remember how in one of the debates Hillary wore a bright red suit when she was to face Trump. Given what I have learned about red and men that was done on purpose to confuse him in a way he probably did not expect or even realize. What I CAN say is that I honestly had no idea red could be that significant until I watched that documentary and that was at a much older age than you are now.

Did you ever watch the classic movie "Citizen Kane"? Did you look up what Rose Bud really means? Well, I remember reading about it not so very long ago, and while it may have had one meaning in the movie, there was yet another meaning for it. Perhaps I will let you look into that yourself. And my point is, there are most definitely deep meanings to things that can be learned that can provide more insight rather than just some OMG that is horrible. I guess what I am trying to say is that your husband is certainly not the first to want to act out his fantasies. And you certainly are not the first woman to agree either. After all, Hugh Hefner got a lot of women to agree to go along with his "fantasy" of having different women reveal themselves every month in his magazine. He told other men, "go ahead, it's ok to look". When Hugh Hefner was asked about objectifying women, his answer was along the lines of "no, I am empowering them to enjoy their sexuality".

I remember seeing the movie "Basic Instinct", well, the man that put that together wanted to "shock" the audience, and it was some man's fantasy. Well, that actress did agree to play that part. Ofcourse, every time her name came up, everyone thought about that part she agreed to play. Yes, now I remember her name, Sharon Stone. The way those men responded in that movie is what your husband seems to enjoy seeing. And, that is what Hugh Hefner liked as well. So, my point about this is that this is not a fetish that is unusual, it's there and there are plenty of ways it does come out. I do remember that my father did have playboy magazines and when asked about it, he talked about how that magazine had some very interesting articles. He would never admit that "yes, I do like to look at naked women".

I remember that movie Jamie Lee Curtis was in with Arnold Swartzenager, ugh can't think of the name of that movie atm. She did that scene where she was stripping and it was the first time she was seen in a movie like that and many people expressed how they were amazed by how nice her body was. Well, since that movie came out, a lot of people that had seen that movie will think of that movie when thinking about Jamie Lee Curtis. Actually, the way her own husband reacted in that movie is the same reaction your husband enjoys seeing happen. So, clearly that was a portrayl of "someone's" fantasy. However, these actresses did agree to play these roles and they did get compensated for it. So, it's not out of the realm of how women have participated in acting out fantasies.

That being said, what you have engaged in isn't really something many wives choose to do, it's one of those things that is expected in other places or venues, but not typically something one comes across in visiting a friend who's wife happens to agree to be up in her bedroom naked so her husband can surprise this friend of his who never expected to experience what your husband presented to him. This isn't something the average woman expects to be surprised with from her husband. Most women expect their husbands to want their wives to themselves. However, a lot of husbands do like it when their wife looks sexy when they take them out there is some of the wanting to show the wife off that happens with men. Your husband wants more than that and this is something the two of you will need to discuss and really consider the consequences and what can compromise your marriage and family that he clearly isn't really thinking about at the moment.

I remember years ago I went with some friends to see male strippers for the first time. I believe I went two times, the second time was more about confirming that yes, women can go crazy. I was shocked to see how the women behaved, AND women who were older too. I can still remember how I distanced and even got embarassed in that I was even in a place where women behaved the way I was seeing them behave. Women can be every bit as forward as men and I had no idea until I witnessed it. Human beings can be VERY sexual, both males AND females. Yet, it's not something one expectes to experience in regular suberbia where most are supposed to be responsible adults raising their children in ways that respect the well being of the children.