Hi Nightdream -- Sorry I misunderstood.
I'm wondering if this line of reasoning would work in your situation:
We really don't have power to "hurt" anyone. It's their choice whether to be hurt or not by our actions. All we can do is behave according to our highest ideals and values and standards, and take care of ourselves, and be honest.
I struggle with not wanting to hurt people, too.
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