So after avoiding her for a month, she seemed to get the message. She was much more respectful of me and said almost nothing about my friends. So I decided to give her another chance, and unshockingly, that was a mistake.
Yesterday we were having a conversation in the presence of another party and she was soo rude to me it was almost shocking (so I couldn't tell her off immediately). I went after her to tell her off and she started crying and apologized... she says she is having issues with her mother who is elderly.
But, I think in my head that was the end. I am done. DONE. I am not sure how I am going to handle it but I literally don't care anymore. I think over the holiday I am going to have a chat with her. She must know.
When she apologized I didn't say she was forgiven.