If I choose and train myself to not see my trigger situation as a threat, maybe I won’t get triggered. It isn’t a physical threat. It is something I can choose to distract myself from and simply walk away from.

I can tell myself in the moment, “This is not a threat. Don’t panic.”

I can’t completely get away from the trigger (because I live with the person who does it and it’s an intimacy issue). But I can choose to accept that we do not share real intimacy. It isn’t the kind of relationship it is supposed to be. It is what it is. I’ll distract myself and walk away instead of getting sad, mad, hysterical, etc... going off.

No threat. No joy. Just acceptance and find something else to fulfill my mind and spirit.