I have been in a relationship with horrible communication for 15 years. I finally just gave up a few years ago. She is sort of borderline personality disorderish and communicating is not a priority, unless it serves some immediate goal, usually getting something that she wants. I have put myself last and she and the kids first. It's not fair to me and I am not happy about it, but I consider my duty as a father more important than my own happiness. Is this what you want for yourself?