Hey @bpfighter250 I meant to respond sooner.
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Hi everyone. My boyfriend really struggles with communication. He tells me he loves me but he does not seem sensitive to my feelings. When I am sad or upset I would like to talk about it with him. But he seems incapable of discussing these things or really any matter of my life that’s important to me. He doesn’t seem interested in talking about the things I am passionate about such as my career. When I brought up to him that I’d like to be asked more questions to see that he is interested in me and my life, I feel like he got very defensive.
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Many times people get defensive because things are true.
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When I asked him to read a book on active listening, he seemed to get offended like I was asking him to change who he was. I told him this skill would serve him in other areas of his life including his job and he merely shrugged it off.
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i think he may have felt you were trying to fix him or teach him as if he's broken.
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I feel like my needs aren’t getting met and I feel very invisible and unheard. I don’t know what I should do at this point but I have some serious doubt as to whether this person can love me like I need for the rest of my life.
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Trust your gut. No relationship should be this much work.
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