Her husband is pressuring her to expose herself. It was not something she came up with and by sharing this challenge she has gotten a variety of responses from individuals of different ages and responses from both women and men as well.

I think one has to take into consideration a lot of the cultural messages of their generation, they are both young yet, and just 32. Things have been pretty graffic in their generation. For example, one movie I talked about "Basic Instinct" came out in 92. That was made over 17 years ago. He was very young when that movie came out. Their generation was exposed to a lot more sexually graffic movies than my generation. It's very possible this contributed to his evolving into having this fetish he has that he had not had before in their relationship.

Yes, it's possible the OP has been taken back by the comments. However, she is also getting feedback that can help her consider some things she has not considered before, and also validate some of her concerns as well. I think the feedback she has gotten in her thread is expressing concern for her and cautions. This is a relationship obstacle, I am sure the OP wants feedback that can provide her with information so she can handle this obstacle in a way that hopefully provides her a way to maintain her marriage but also engage in discussions with her husband to avoid both of them facing consequences they would rather not experience.

Also, when it comes to your children, the environment you create for them? You don't get a redo. Their children do need their parents to behave in ways that help the children feel safe and confident. So her and her husband's behaviors "matter".