I prefer when people try too hard. It is so much better than not trying at all. I now look at challenges as the universe teaching me the lessons I needed to become a better person. From everything I know about you, I find you exceptional in many many ways. Discombobulated is right--you are too hard on yourself. So many people on PC are but perhaps we are just passionate and caring people. My strategy for being overwhelmed is finding time to take personal time outs. I know you have a full time job and that in and of itself can be overwhelming but you are also building financial security which will allow you to take time for yourself. Look for ways to pamper yourself. You deserve it!!!