xRavenx, I think your post above is full of very valuable points of discussion between you and your new therapist. I know it may seem a little scary to discuss some of what you wrote with her, but it is important. The worst that could happen is that she would say that you and she are not a good fit. The best thing is that she could be a bit more understanding and modify her approach a bit, that would be helpful for you. Getting such things out in the open can be liberating, even if they feel frightening to voice, at first.

If the worst is the case, then you would know it was time to look for a new therapist. The worst situation, in my view, is wasting time with a therapist that cannot or will not help you.

I want to mention just a little thing based on what you wrote. I have never had a therapist sit behind a desk. I have had a couple therapists and psychiatrists sit at their desk, but not with the desk blocking my view of half of their bodies. I wouldn't like a person behind a desk, either. I remember years back that my psychiatrist would sit at his desk, though the desk wasn't in between us. He was in his office chair, and I was sitting in the uncomfortable wooden chair near it. One time, a couple years later, I told him that I hated the wooden chair and that I thought it was like a torture device. In response, he told me to sit anywhere I wanted in his office. He had many seating options, including a huge leather sofa. Well, I sat my butt right smack in the middle of that sofa, and he moved from his desk to a comfy looking chair that was just across from me. We've been sitting in these spots ever since. Happily!

Can you just tell her you need to just unload stuff first before homework starts. She needs to understand your back story before she can really understand how best to help you.... unless what she’s doing is just the only help she offers everyone ?!

The big desk between you ?? Yeah that would not work for me..

I say .. make some calls see when you can get in with someone else , maybe give this one another session and you be more assertive ? If she still pushes homework I’d wander off and try someone new