@LacunaCoiler

Here's something you could do for her: learn about active listening, study it daily and thoroughly, and practice doing it as best you can until you can do it well.

I get that you love her and that you show your love in other ways. That’s good! Communication, though, seems central for her, and it sounds like in this central area she is saying that her needs are not being met. Is that how you want things to be left?