I find I am *too* kind to a fault. I have been told in the past by someone that I am far "too nice", which ultimately means that ppl feel they can trample on me, take advantage of me, and abuse me. I've also struggled with boundaries and have allowed some people to cross my boundaries, which then only just hurts me in the end. I am working on both these issues. Guess I'm too much of a people pleaser, and that's most of my problem. I want to not be so nice.... I wish I could be more of a big you know what, but it's not in my nature. For example, at our work Christmas party, we had a company-wide gift game and gift exchange where you're allowed to literally steal a person's opened gift, if you want it. Well, a woman who is above me in seniority opened a humungous life-sized adorable fluffy teddy bear, and I wanted it. But she sat on the couch, embracing her bear, and I couldn't stand the thought of taking it away from her, even though I was completely allowed to do so. So I opened a gift and ended up not happy with it, and then was upset with myself for not stealing the bear away. I was far too nice and far too kind. That's my problem. Most ppl in that room would have taken the bear.