Oohh, Fuzzy, I can so relate. I think there's a balance that can be found between being kind to others, and also protecting one's personal boundaries. Like when someone crosses a boundary, something can be said.. if nothing is said, then it becomes acceptable. When we protest, and say to the person, that was rude, or that was mean and uncalled for, then we're standing up for ourselves and are protecting ourselves from harm. It' s not easy in this world to have to say things like that, but sometimes, or even often, it's necessary so that others don't trample on us or our self-esteem. Hugs to you. We learn we learn we learn.... and we grow.