I picked him because he has a phd. He's intelligent, his kids are around my daughters age but older. He has a good job, a house, etc. But people stare at us when we are out together. It bugs me. And he was staring at me during the movie, which creeped me out. I think he looks fine, he's older, but people stare. I feel like a trophy not a person. Been there doesn't make for a solid relationship. All they care about is how you look and I may grow old I'm closer at 45 than I was at 19 but it's a concern.