I empathize with your post so much. My current therapist has given me one thing that does help some of the time and I want to share it with you. I feel overwhelmed by the idea of doing anything. Self care or housework or anything. So my therapist advice was a riddle:
“How do you eat an elephant? “
Any number of pictures ran through my mind when she asked me that. Like, how could anyone eat an elephant? It’s a kind creature. Or it’s too big.
The answer was simple.
“One bite at a time.”
Just one small thing that you can do gets you closer to your goal. Even if the goal is overwhelming and seems impossible. That’s ok. Just do that one tiny thing that you can do and try not to worry about the rest right now. Just do that one thing.
Trying to fix our whole life isn’t achievable. But maybe just going outside for 2 minutes is. Or maybe cleaning up 1/10 of our room is a reasonable idea. Or maybe just calling a friend. Or maybe just washing your hair. Whatever you can do, start there. One step, one bite, at a time.
I hope this helps you some.
Love and prayers.