Thanks again. And a small update. Her check was today. So early today I got a message "I'll talk to you later, it is cancer... Unfortunately".

I respond "****. I'm heading for work, but I'll leave my sound on the phone on just in case."
Then I'm off work. I see she is on MSN. I write
"I'm off work, can I call?".
No response.. So I call anyway. No answer. (no answering machine either, so guess I rejected the call manually.
And fair.
But then I see on Facebook she has a new post. Pictures from the doctor, some city pics, and bar pics. The caption something like" the worst happened. Thanks to - x- and to those who thought about me.

(x is her friend who went along).

I'll be honest. I'm kinda pissed I get no more info than, it's cancer. And she has time to make a damn Facebook post.
So I can't just wait for her to call or the next fb post to know how serious it might be. What the plan is and so on.
And I bet she's gonna somehow turn it over on me.
That I didn't care or whatever.

But yeah that's that.
If she does I'll let her know it's messed up.
And I've told her no yesterday concerning the sister's.

So yay Christmas.....
Honestly just waiting for January at this point.