He's trying to baffle you with b.s. Or he is trying to baffle himself with b.s. Or both. Is there a power differential in your relationship? It sounds like there might be--have his needs and wants always come first? Decide if you think you want to keep your marriage, and then proceed accordingly. If I decided I wanted to keep my marriage, I would start setting up appointments with therapists. Invite him to do the same. Consult a couple-three therapists. Go with the one the two of you decide seems most likely to help. If he refuses, start developing your single life--and that would include not babying him, no longer financially supporting him, or whatever he's-more-entitled-than-you-are stuff you have been doing for him to have developed his "I'm the King" attitude, and (this is optional) tell him you think it's a low thing to do to throw away his spouse when he is almost done with the education the spouse (and extended family, perhaps) undoubtedly helped facilitate. Love is an action word: It involves respect, consideration, caring. Not seeing that from your spouse.