well, I have read all the replies here, and I agree with them. I have BPD and a few other disorders too, but I consider them inside of the BPD and/or a result/symptom of it. It is very hard to live with, and i am starting to learn how to manage mine...with a T. I have been married 20 yrs now. Not all of it happy, but still married. It needs a lot of work! And I am always afraid of losing my loved ones...Dont give up hope though because relationships can work. Its just our doubt that helps us to believe they wont. good luck........Marie