My mom, me, and my little sister have basically been the only ones we could depend on almost our entire lives yet we are competitive. I didn't realize this until my husband sort of pointed it out to me. It makes sense.

Not that I'm the one who isn't competitive, in a sense I am too...but my Mom and sister are very competitive towards each other. Like their weight for example. They are constantly competing to see who is thinner. I never cared about that aspect to much, I thought being pregnant twice in a row was a good enough excuse....then, not necessarily now though.

For me and my Mom it's our GPA. Mine has always been a few points lower then her, granted my Mom is a 4.0 student. I'd say something like "I got a B+ on my psych research paper" and instead of saying "that's good", she'd say "Well, I got an A+ on mine"...

As for my sister it's always been boys. Well "always" meaning before my husband. When I was 16, before my hubby, I was with a boy for about a year. We weren't like serious, but we were together and were monogamous with one another if you get what I mean. One day when I was at work I returned home to discover that my boyfriend had come over and him and my sister left. They didn't return till the next day. I knew immediately by the way my sister was implying that she had my boyfriend. It pleased her to devastate me.

What can I do to stop this behavior? I tried biting my tongue and doing the opposite effect. Nothing has changed though. I'm tired of not being good enough for them.