HaveHope, it sounds like your job and boss and work environment is toxic to your well being. Can you ask for time off? I believe you can take a medical leave but you have to go through the Family Medical Leave Act, or something like that for time off related to mental health.

Otherwise, if talking to your boss won't improve your work environment or the way you are treated there, then I think you should quit for your mental health's sake. Frame it to your husband as a career path change.

If you've reached a breaking point mentally around the way your job and work environment and people there make you feel, you have to leave. You cannot change anyone.

Even if you calmly speak to your boss about your concerns, and you put an action plan in place for what you want improved, that does not guarantee that your boss will change.

People in toxic work environments stay for these reasons: health insurance, a regular paycheck, and fear of no references. But, is it worth it? To stay in a place that is bad for your health, literally?

I don't think you need to check yourself into the hospital temporarily. I think what you need to do, is actually quit your toxic job.