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Originally Posted by LilyMop
Maybe people are pointing out where you have some better options? Maybe from someone else’s perspective, your situation just doesn’t look the same as it does to you.
Either way, is there something you can learn from the message they are giving you? I say this because I can think of times people were trying to communicate something to me and I just couldn’t or wouldn’t understand at the time.
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Lily, I bolded these two paragraphs in your response because what you wrote, is a perfect example of minimizing someone's feelings.
Minimizing is psychological invalidation.
What you wrote in bold above, invalidates DarkMagician's feelings because you don't validate DarkMagician's feelings, but invalidate them. At least from my perspective that's what it appears as.
Maybe you don't realize it, but telling DarkMagician they have to learn something from being invalidated is rather mean.
I would never tell anyone how they should react or think or feel the way you have told DarkMagician. I don't think it's very respectful of DarkMagician's feelings. I'm trying to communicate something to you that I hope you could understand.