HaveHope, I posted in your other thread that I think the best action you can take for yourself, is to quit your toxic job.

Toxic jobs can affect our mental and physical health. It can cause insomnia, anxiety attacks, stomach problems, loss of appetite, severe depression, etc.

Toxic jobs put the body's nervous system into overdrive and any "injustice" experienced at work is horrendous on your self-worth because when it comes from a boss or their boss, or team member (the injustice pattern), it affects you at your core of who you are.

I had a friend who quit her job in human resources after being with her company for 7 years because the work environment was so toxic, her hair started falling out and she lost weight and had daily panic attacks. Her husband supported her quitting her job. She eventually found another one and used a friend at her previous job as her professional reference (not her toxic bosses).

So, there is a way out for you: quit your toxic job. Or, find a way to take a mental health medical leave that you are entitled to FMLA (family medical leave act) with pay. Some companies comply with it, and some don't. You could call your city's ombudsman to find out how to enact it -- take a month off to job search and recoup mentally. But if that's not possible, put yourself first and tell your husband that you need his emotional support while you quit your toxic job. Then, join a Dislocated Workers Program.

Goodwill Easter Seals offers it in every city, as does every county as a resource for people in your situation. You are matched up with a career counselor and given access to a ton of resources, even grant money to complete job-related courses or certificates if you're doing a job change. It will be your saving grace = having a career counselor to help you find a better job in a more healthy work environment. The only downside is, that you have to stay in touch with your "case worker" once a month during your job search, and then shortly after you are hired at your new job. The pro is, you can quit the Dislocated Worker Program anytime. There is no "penalty" to quitting it. You just won't have free access to a career counselor and the resources that go with that person.

I would quit your toxic job. Tell your husband that's what you are doing and tell him that he needs to support you.