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My brother and his wife are frankly on the verge of a divorce. This is 100% my brother's fault. My brother is abusive and obnoxious. Not only that, he is lazy. This is the second xmas now that I have gone over there and they are fighting like cats and dogs. I suspect, however, I have a few years before this happens as I don't think she can leave until her mother passes.
Today was so bad he walked out with me to tell me about how annoyed he was with her. For the second year in a row I reiterated that he wasn't coming to live with me... and for the second year in a row he said "oh thanks" as if I was being mean to him.
He is NOT coming to live with me. If that looked like an option I would quit my job right now and move far away to a studio apartment. He is abusive and obnoxious and I am not going to be miserable in the home I worked for. When I lived with him as a child I was miserable every day and now he has guns.
He never learns either. He broke up with a prior girlfriend and he says he didn't hurt her but I know he did (there was a slight bruise on her chest) and the law is such that she literally kept him out of his house AND he had to pay her to have her drop the restraining order. Plus the legal fees. At the time he slept on his mom's couch. I am NOT going to be his mom.
But his Ego is so ity bity that he has to win his arguments with a "woman" no matter how stupid it is. He has to have his way on everything and never gives in. He likes to infuriate women but doing things like bring auto parts into the house, roughhousing the pets, and being careless with things like electrical or gas.
He acts like I owe him because he has been inviting me over for years. But I never asked for that. So I feel like sending him a check for the presents and food that he has provided over the years and telling him that our relationship is over. I mean I know that seems extreme but the only reason I was associating with him was that I thought he had changed and matured but in the last few years it seems he hasn't changed. And he is NOT taking me down with him.
I thought maybe that might make him rethink things and if not he would know not to darken my door.
Frustrated.
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