when needs are frustrated then a natural response is anger. frustration. stuff like that.

i think it is meant to be helped by soothing... can you close your eyes and really remember a time when you felt very connected to her? use rememberings and fantasy and stuff... daydream about the reunion... chat away to her in your head.

feel the rage sometimes to be sure. you are allowed :-)

but if the rage gets a little scary... might be time to soothe...