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eskielover · Dec 26, 2019, 10:21 AM

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Originally Posted by guilloche

I've struggled with this, and don't have a good answer. I think that, to outright just say "it's bad! Stop!" - is frankly not helpful, and can kind of make some people (me!) want to do it more, just to show that you can't be controlled.

Any chance you can find a T that will be more open to you exploring what it actually means to you, what you get out of it, and how you feel about doing it versus not? Like, if you were to create an image of your perfect life... would cutting still be part of that? Why or why not? What other things would be different?

It's a really hard thing, and you might want to also do some research on if/how it changes your brain. (That would be a bigger concern for me!) Because Raging Vortex is right about it being like an addiction, and that might be something to consider?

*hugs*

Just like alcoholism....the individual person has to want to stop....but it is a not having better coping skills or maybe just not wanting to stop. Basing "not stopping" on reasons that are not factual is just being deceptive to one's own healing.

Just like with the anorexia I struggled with, it is IMPORTANT to get down to the fundimental CAUSE for the behavior & deal with it. That is a lot of HARD work for us & many T's are not capable of directing therapy below the tip of the iceberg.

Don't rationalize away your need for help by saying it doesn't matter because it is not hurting me. The FACT is that cutting IS a dysfunctional coping mechanism that needs to be dealt with in a rational way & the foundational source of "WHY" needs to be processed.